Let me make something clear to you, there is nothing like I am too old to fall in love. Sadly, however, we do not all fall in love at the same time, hence it may be impossible for you to believe there is something called love if you are just coming out of a hostile relationship, especially one you gave your best, hoping that the other would come around but never did.
Make no mistake, it could be love you are seeing when you pass by two lovers clinging to each other intimately in the public, moments after your lady broke up with you.
Life is what it is and there is absolutely nothing anyone you can do about it. More so, we all may not get the right dose of love, I mean that one that makes you act like a baby, speaking gibberish and makes you do stupid things you never thought you could do.
My point is this, there is never a phase in life where falling in love is obsolete or a thing of the past. You see Septuagenarians, Octogenarians and even adolescents proclaiming love more than life. That is why you see people taking their lives when the love is denied of them. Some become schizophrenic, some lose their freedom to prove love’s significance.
Every walk of life, every stage of living, you get a chance to love and be loved. However, we need to learn that not in all cases will love be dumped on our laps or knock on our doors. Sometimes we are lucky to find love’s magic wand and some unfortunate times, we exchange these wands for woods. We look love in the eyes and say we do not need you, only for moments after we discover we need it more than life itself.
At this point, I do not need to reemphasize that as much as we live, we need love at every stage of our lives. Be it Eros, philos, agape and what have you. So, when next you see an old couple kissing each other so passionately at a train station, two adolescents having sex at a bus garage or couples of different age brackets and its so obvious that one is older than the other, most importantly, no one is coerced and you can see the passion in them exhibiting this feeling, just know that that thing called love is not a film trick, it really honestly happens.
Do not be quick to debunk this, die first without your experience of love before you say no butterfly can tinkle your belly and make you so fly to go out of your way showing love.
By the way, did I mention that love does not know color, tribe, race, or other social classifications we use in labeling one another? It does not know that she is a Muslim and I am a Christian? Hun un! It really does not care if he were born with silver spoon permanently glued to his mouth and if that would ever make him think. Love most times does not consider what others think are essential, in fact, it makes you want to lose your home training.
Relax babe! How do you explain why your body was so mushy mushy to get down with him? Was your home training intact, then? Its not wrong, my darling! It makes you 100% human. You are not backsliding in your faith when you see her and all you think is to kiss her, caress her and do all of those things you have seen or heard couples do.
All I am saying is, to love and be loved is human. When we are denied of this, it makes us want to question our completeness. Which is human to do, but I beg you, do not let it make you give up your self-worth cheaply! I beg of you, do not in the sake of loving disavow your belief or ethics.
It makes much sense that when love happens to you, it does not leave you with regrets if it must leave. Or you do not know that love leaves at some point and it doesn’t it mean it was not meant to be? Yeah, hear it from me that love bids farewell sometimes! The joy is that much often than you thought, it comes back saying HOLLA! Do not be disgruntled! Do not be entitled to snub it, if it was meant to be the moment it first came, one way or the other, you both would have pulled through. Honor the opportunity to grow apart that afforded you growing together again, which most times is forever standing.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but sometimes also, true love leaves and never return. Yeah, it does! Other times, it tarries to show up and some other times, it shows up too early and you become so used to it that you never value it after a long time.
Whichever time love comes around for you, please welcome it with both arms widely open and give your very best because falling in love is not only to be enjoyed when your partner loves you as much as you love them. Often, the love is usually unrequited when true love shows up. With patience, believing that you are falling in love for you and not for them, fulfillment will in the process hand over the trophy of satisfaction to you than you ever thought.
Let me not over flog the matter. All I am saying is that, whenever you fall in love, please do it with all you have and do not lose your most cherished value in the name of love except it is part of your plan to share those values and you are not under any pressure whatsoever giving it up. Nothing brings satisfaction than loving because you are doing it for you, after all, everyone would leave you but you!
Finally, love is not time or phase bound. Love can happen anytime, so long as you are alive! Love is not biased or sentimental. Love is fair and chooses you when it is right in its eye to do so. Will you believe me when I say God is love? Yeah, he is. So, choose decency in exhibiting love when the butterfly tinkles you. Ire o!!!!
Ezekiel Fatomilola is author of the book The Handicapped Hero with relevant age long experience in relationship coaching with emphasis on professionalism.
He is media savvy with many published works.
The MBA student is saddled with branding and digital marketing of firms like Swift Rental Cars Limited, AHC Limited amongst many others
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